Character shows us the way
Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thought.
Character allow us to stay in the game of life for a long time.
View life as a continuous learning experience.
There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.
There’s nothing more important than attitude, and it’s YOUR choice.
Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.
Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience.
He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.
It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.
You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.
Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.
Attitude determines the altitude of life.
Every moment matters!
With the right attitude, self imposed limitations vanish.
Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude.
Turn your obstacles into opportunities and your problems into possibilities. Discipline Your Mind to Think Positively: Discipline your mind to see the good in every situation and look on the best side of every event.
Doesn't matter how difficult is, ask always: ”What good thing is going to come out of this.”
Always seek out the seed of triumph in every adversity.
The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.
Character is the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices you make that gradually turn who you are, at any given moment, into who you want to be.
"Where there is a will there is a way," is an old and true saying. He who resolves upon doing a thing, by that very resolution often scales the barriers to it, and secures its achievement. To think we are able, is almost to be so - to determine upon attainment is frequently attainment itself.
Instead of running from the negative, I've started running towards the positive.
Not having the best situation, but seeing the best in your situation is the key to happiness.
We don't have the choice to control our emotions, but we do have the power to educate our emotions. And we do that through literature and through art and music to give ourselves a repertoire of emotional experiences.
Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.
The fear of failure, the fear of being imperfect (perfectionism), and the fear of impossible expectations (being overwhelmed) that prevent us from acting on and attaining humanly possible goals and relationships.
Thankfulness and gratitude are the foundation of character and being able to serve others.
Everything we think and feel is creating our future. If you're worried or in fear, then you're bringing more of that into your life throughout the day.
Everything can be taken from a (person) but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
How we think shows through in how we act. Attitudes are mirrors of the mind. They reflect thinking.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.
Negative thinking is guilt, worry, insecurity, fear, jealousy, suspicion, hatred, antagonism, anger, despair, mourning, and self-doubt. Negative thinking is being out of step with people and things around you. Positive thinking is love, appreciation, optimism, security, courage, cooperation, compassion, generosity, friendliness, patience, helpfulness, and ambition. Positive thinking is being in step — in harmony — with people and things around you.
Your "I CAN" is more important than your IQ.
If something you want is slow to come to you, it can be for only one reason: You are spending more time focused upon its absence than you are about its presence.
Genuine confidence is not the absence of fear; it is a transformed relationship with fear.
The feeling of love comes and goes on a whim; you can't control it. But the action of love is something you can do, regardless of how you are feeling.
Commitment isn’t about being perfect, always following through, or never going astray. Commitment means that when you (inevitably) stumble or get off track, you pick yourself up, find your bearings, and carry on in the direction you want to go.
Above all, during the interval, change from “ego orientation” to “task orientation.” Think: “I know this seems like a personal insult, but it is not. It is a challenge to be overcome that calls on skills I have.
Pessimistic prophecies are self-fulfilling.
Life inflicts the same setbacks and tragedies on the optimist as on the pessimist, but the optimist weathers them better.
Optimism generates hope...hope releases dreams...dreams set goals...enthusiasm follows.
Close scrutiny will show that most "crisis situations" are opportunities to either advance, or stay where you are.
Act happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love, and do what you will.
The remedy is not to suppress negative experiences; when they happen, they happen. Rather, it is to foster positive experiences—and in particular, to take them in so they become a permanent part of you.
Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for a just nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than—you guessed it—five seconds.
Things do not necessarily happen for the best, but I can choose to make the best of things that happen.
Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.
Talent is a gift, but character is a choice.
A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.
Circumstances do not make the man, they reveal him.
Remove all unloving thoughts from your mind, and practice kindness in all of your thoughts, words, and actions.
Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world.
Negative thinking is something we all do. The difference between the person who is primarily optimistic and the person who is primarily pessimistic is that the optimist learns to become a good debater. Once you become thoroughly aware of the effectiveness of optimism in your life, you can learn to debate your pessimistic thoughts.
To live an uncommon life, one needs learn uncommon disciplines.
Every situation, every moment, provides the opportunity for self-growth and development of your character.
The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.
The basic difference between an ordinary man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge while an ordinary man takes everything as a blessing or a curse.
At some point we will all confront a dark moment in life. If not the passing of a loved one, then something else that crushes your spirit and leaves you wondering about your future. In that dark moment, reach deep inside yourself and be your very best.
Be for something and against nothing.
Problems can only exist if they have your attention.
Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.
Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there.
Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.
If a situation can be fixed, Why get upset about it? If a situation cannot be fixed, What’s the use of getting upset?
Do one thing every day that scares you.
You can often change your circumstances by changing your attitude.
Experiencing stress and pain is unavoidable. It is part and parcel of being involved in life, of loving and caring for people, caring about issues, and taking risks. Use the challenge response to protect your cells while you engage fully with life.
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
The way we see the problem is the problem.
Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.
Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
Your potential, the absolute best you’re capable of—that’s the metric to measure yourself against. Your standards are. Winning is not enough. People can get lucky and win. People can be assholes and win. Anyone can win. But not everyone is the best possible version of themselves.
It is rarely a mysterious technique that drives us to the top, but rather a profound mastery of what may well be a basic skill set.
Victims recite problems, leaders provide solutions.
Victim fall in love with excuses.
In most cases you are the one who confuses just doing the job with testing your worth. Replace 'I have to' with 'I choose to'.
People don’t procrastinate just to be ornery or because they’re irrational. They procrastinate because it makes sense, given how vulnerable they feel to criticism, failure, and their own perfectionism.
No pressure, no diamonds.
The challenge is to always improve, to always get better, even when you are the best. Especially when you are the best.
There will be times of fear and trembling. There will be times of discouragement and disillusionment. Have courage, smile, keep your chin up, laugh often, be kind to yourself, stay focused, be gracious and appreciative, think happy thoughts, and carry on regardless.
Attitude is a decision, and it is also a learned behavior, requiring discipline and energy to sustain.
Do. The. Work. Every day, you have to do something you don’t want to do. Every day. Challenge yourself to be uncomfortable, push past the apathy and laziness and fear. Otherwise, the next day you’re going to have two things you don’t want to do, then three and four and five, and pretty soon, you can’t even get back to the first thing. And then all you can do is beat yourself up for the mess you’ve created, and now you’ve got a mental barrier to go along with the physical barriers.
The only real failure is abandoning your principles. Killing what you love because you can’t bear to part from it is selfish and stupid. If your reputation can’t absorb a few blows, it wasn’t worth anything in the first place.
It can ruin your life only if it ruins your character.
Keeping one’s attitude positive, especially when the world conspires to make us mad, is one of the great accomplishments of life.
What matters, in other words, isn’t what we feel but how we respond to those feelings.
Positivity, by contrast, is directly linked to improved performance.
Where your thinking goes, your affairs follow.
Your thinking, more than anything else, shapes the way you live. It’s really true that if you change your thinking, you can change your life.
No doctrine is more optimistic [than existentialism], since it declares that man's destiny lies within himself.
Procrastination is like addiction. It offers temporary excitement and relief from boring reality.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start being excited of what could go right.
There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great, and no tonic so powerful as expectation of something tomorrow.
A good laugh makes us better friends with ourselves and everyone around us.
Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.
John Wooden, the legendary basketball coach, says you aren’t a failure until you start to blame. What he means is that you can still be in the process of learning from your mistakes until you deny them.
The problem with patience and discipline is that it requires both of them to develop each of them.
"When something is chance based, be stubbornly persistent. There’s no reason to quit a (free) chance-based venture. Ever. It’s irrational to quit unless it costs you something. It’s free to submit guest post articles, ask women to go to dinner with you, apply for dream jobs, or ask your boss for a raise. There can be many upsides if you get positive results, so take action without apologizing. Be the most aggressive person you know! When something fails, try a different approach. Concrete failure, as opposed to chance failure, gives you an opportunity to eliminate that way of doing things (Edison’s failed lightbulb prototypes are a popular example of this). When you suspect a negative result comes from a combination of chance and failure, be persistent, but try varying strategies to the degree that you think it’s failure.”
When people focus on problems, their problems actually grow and reproduce. When you train your mind to focus on solutions, guess what expands?
It’s okay to be scared—do it scared. It’s okay to be unsure—do it unsure. It’s okay to be uncomfortable—do it uncomfortable. Just get started where you are. That is the attitude of the most disciplined and successful people on the planet.
Discipline is a perpetual process, and the growth is in the journey. Simple, but here’s the part that you won’t like hearing—you don’t get a day off. Ever.
Optimists have a positive expectancy that helps them achieve their goals. Theirs is a can-do attitude. They take action, which is empowering. Pessimists take a passive attitude. They play the blame game or focus on what they can’t do. As a result, pessimists often become victims of self-fulfilling prophecy.
Thoughts create actions. Actions create habits. Habits create character.
Freedom is not the ability to do whatever you want. Freedom is the strength of character to do what is good, true, noble, and right.
A positive attitude never works against you. But a negative attitude will always find a way to work against you.
Especially when things are at their worst, your self-talk must be positive, encouraging, and empowering. Shut down the Internal Critic.
Positivity is far more than a mental preference. It changes your brain, literally, and it changes the people around you. It’s the nearest thing we have to magic.
Pessimism is often a failure of imagination.
Of all the virtues we can learn no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.
Keep things simple so you don’t clutter the mind with extraneous nonsense. Trust your own innate ability; and most important, stay positive and believe in your own God-given ability.
I can go through life as a victim, blaming others for my misfortunes, and experiencing frustration over my condition. Or I can choose to be an active agent and do what I can do to bring about a positive change in my life.
Things do not necessarily happen for the best, but I can choose to make the best of things that happen.
Mindset impacts emotion, which alters biology, which increases performance. Thus, it seemed, by tinkering with mindset—using everything from physical to psychological to pharmacological interventions—one could significantly enhance performance.
Our brain is continuously being shaped - we can take more responsibility for our own brain by cultivating positive influences.
Even when we're sitting still, with no external stimuli, an endless internal dialogue may be going on in our head. we're constantly consuming our thoughts. Cows, goats, and buffalo chew their food, swallow it, then regurgitate and rechew it multiple times. We may not be cows or buffalo, but we ruminate just the same on our thoughts - unfortunately, primarily negative thoughts. We eat them, and then we bring them up to chew again and again, like a cow chewing its cud.
Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.
Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power.
Gratitude is where every positive attitude starts.
The grateful mind continually expects good things, and expectation becomes faith.
Nothing can go wrong in this world but yourself ; and you can go wrong only by getting into the wrong mental attitude.
We spend a lot of time thinking about the ways that prestige and resources and belonging to elite institutions make us better off. We don’t spend enough time thinking about the ways in which those kinds of material advantages limit our options.
Courage is not something that you already have that makes you brave when the tough times start. Courage is what you earn when you’ve been through the tough times and you discover they aren’t so tough after all.
If you want to change the world… start singing when you’re up to your neck in mud.
Sometimes no matter how hard you try, no matter how good you are, you still end up as a sugar cookie. Don’t complain. Don’t blame it on your misfortune. Stand tall, look to the future, and drive on!
When you commit that what comes out of your mouth will be positive, your mind will become more aware of positive experiences too.
Often when you think you’re at the end of something, you’re at the beginning of something else.
One of the major differences between successful and unsuccessful people is that the former look for problems to resolve, whereas the latter make every attempt to avoid them.
If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?
If everything you tell yourself about yourself becomes a directive to your subconscious mind, then anytime you make a statement about yourself that is negative you are directing your subconscious mind to make you become the person you just described—negatively!
Leading behavioral researchers have told us that as much as seventy-seven percent of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us. At the same time, medical researchers have said that as much as seventy-five percent of all illnesses are self-induced.
The beauty of the soul shines out when a man bears with composure one heavy mischance after another, not because he does not feel them, but because he is a man of high and heroic temper.
Moral experience—the actual possession and exercise of good character—is necessary truly to understand moral principles and profitably to apply them.
I believe ability can get you to the top,” says coach John Wooden, “but it takes character to keep you there.… It’s so easy to … begin thinking you can just ‘turn it on’ automatically, without proper preparation. It takes real character to keep working as hard or even harder once you’re there. When you read about an athlete or team that wins over and over and over, remind yourself, ‘More than ability, they have character.'
Venturing out of your comfort zone may be dangerous, yet do it anyways because our ability to grow is directly proportional to an ability to entertain the uncomfortable.