The fire of “NOW”

Mother Teresa - Albanian-Indian Roman Catholic nun and missionary

We fear the future because we are wasting today. 

Roy T. Bennett - Author

The biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind: Never let your mind talk you out of your dreams, trick you into giving up. Never let your mind become the greatest obstacle to success. To get your mind on the right track, the rest will follow.

Allan Lokos - Founder and guiding teacher of the Community Meditation Center located on New York

Suffering usually relates to wanting things to be different than they are.

Joseph Campbell - American professor of literature at Sarah Lawrence College who worked in comparative mythology and comparative religion.

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

Frank Herbert - American science-fiction author best known for the 1965 novel Dune and its five sequels

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

Marie Forleo - American entrepreneur and New York Times bestselling author

The most powerful words in the universe are the words you say to yourself.

Louise Lynn Hay - American motivational author and the founder of Hay House

The point of power is always in the present moment.

Rumi - 13th-century Persian poet

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

George Mumford - Highly acclaimed and leading expert in sports psychology & performance

Monkey mind is actually a Buddhist term that refers to a mind that is restless, agitated, confused, or that is hard to control.

Epictetus - Greek Stoic philosopher

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.

Marcus Aurelius - Roman emperor from 161 to 180 and a Stoic philosopher

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.

David Deida - American author who writes about the sexual and spiritual growth of men and women

Every moment of your life is either a test or a celebration.

David Deida - American author who writes about the sexual and spiritual growth of men and women

As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.

Seneca - Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, dramatist, and—in one work—satirist from the Silver Age of Latin literature

True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient, for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.

Martin Elias Pete Seligman - American psychologist, educator, and author of self-help books. Seligman is a strong promoter within the scientific community of his theories of positive psychology and of well-being

Changing the destructive things you say to yourself when you experience the setbacks that life deals all of us is the central skill of optimism.

Martin Elias Pete Seligman - American psychologist, educator, and author of self-help books. Seligman is a strong promoter within the scientific community of his theories of positive psychology and of well-being

Habits of pessimism lead to depression, wither achievement, and undermine physical health. The good news is that pessimism can be unlearned, and that with its removal depression, underachievement, and poor health can be alleviated.

George Burr Leonard - American writer, editor, and educator who wrote extensively about education and human potential

Our preoccupation with goals, results, and the quick fix has separated us from our own experiences.

Nathaniel Branden - Canadian–American psychotherapist and writer known for his work in the psychology of self-esteem

How do we keep our inner fire alive? Two things, at minimum, are needed: an ability to appreciate the positives in our life – and a commitment to action. Every day, it's important to ask and answer these questions: ‘What's good in my life?’ and ‘What needs to be done?

Abraham Harold Maslow - American psychologist who was best known for creating Maslow's hierarchy of needs, a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, culminating in self-actualization

I can feel guilty about the past, apprehensive about the future, but only in the present can I act. The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.

Don Miguel Ruiz - Mexican author of Toltec spiritualist and neoshamanistic texts

If you live in a past dream, you don't enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right now is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self pity, suffering and tears.

Daniel Jay Millman - American author and lecturer in the personal development field

The time is now, the place is here. Stay in the present. You can do nothing to change the past, and the future will never come exactly as you plan or hope for.

Daniel Jay Millman - American author and lecturer in the personal development field

“Where are you? Here
What time is it? Now
What are you? This moment.”

Rick Hanson - Psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author

If you take care of the minutes, the years will take care of themselves.

Sonia Choquette - Globally celebrated and dynamic spiritual teacher, six-sensory consultant, enchanting storyteller, and transformational visionary guide

Being calm is a skill that starts with proper breathing. Dr. Tully taught me that breathing deeply and regularly is not only the key to remaining calm, but also instantly connects us to a higher vibration.

Tal Ben-Shahar - American and Israeli teacher, and writer in the areas of positive psychology and leadership

Life is too short to be in a hurry. If we are always on the go, we are reacting to the exigencies of day-to-day life rather than allowing ourselves the space to create a happy life.

James Allen - British philosophical writer known for his inspirational books and poetry and as a pioneer of the self-help movement

Self-control is strength. Right thought is mastery. Calmness is power.

Wayne Walter Dyer - American self-help and spiritual author and a motivational speaker

Acceptance means no complaining, and happiness means no complaining about the things over which you can do nothing.

Wayne Walter Dyer - American self-help and spiritual author and a motivational speaker

There are two days in the week about which and upon which I never worry. Two carefree days, kept sacredly free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is yesterday…and the other day I do not worry about is tomorrow.

Trevor Moawad - Renowned Mental Conditioning expert and strategic advisor to some of the world's most elite performers

Negativity affects you negatively 100% of the time...The first step to getting out of the hole is to stop digging.

Daniel Goleman - Author and science journalist. For twelve years, he wrote for The New York Times, reporting on the brain and behavioral sciences

But the rational mind usually doesn't decide what emotions we "should" have!

Paulo Coelho - Brazilian lyricist and novelist, best known for his novel The Alchemist

Don't give in to your fears. If you do, you won't be able to talk to your heart.

Jack Canfield - American author, motivational speaker, corporate trainer, and entrepreneur

Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

Brian Tracy - Canadian-American motivational public speaker and self-development author

The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.

Eckhart Tolle - Spiritual teacher and best-selling author. the tower

Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.

Eckhart Tolle - Spiritual teacher and best-selling author. the tower

What a liberation to realize that the “voice in my head” is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.

Harvey A. Dorfman - American mental skills coach who worked in education and psychology as a teacher, counselor, coach, and consultant

Anxiety about outcome is the single most intrusive inhibitor to effective performance.

Lao Tzu - Ancient Chinese philosopher and writer. He is the reputed author of the Tao Te Ching, the founder of philosophical Taoism, and a deity in religious Taoism and traditional Chinese religions

If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.

Ryan Holiday is an American marketer and author

Remember, there’s no greatness in the future. Or clarity. Or insight. Or happiness. Or peace. There is only this moment.

Ryan Holiday is an American marketer and author

The less energy we waste regretting the past or worrying about the future, the more energy we will have for what’s in front of us.

John Wooden - American basketball player and coach

Be true to yourself.
Make each day your masterpiece.
Help others.
Drink deeply from good books.
Make friendship a fine art.
Build a shelter against a rainy day.
Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day.

John Wooden - American basketball player and coach

Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.

John Wooden - American basketball player and coach

Don't let yesterday take up too much of today.

Daniel Jay Millman - American author and lecturer in the personal development field

Life is a series of moments. The quality of attention and action that we bring to each moment determines the quality of our lives.

Daniel Jay Millman - American author and lecturer in the personal development field

Where are you? Here
What time is it? Now
What are you? This moment.

Shawn Phillips - Fitness Philosopher. Internationally respected strength and fitness expert who has helped athletes, celebrities, and tens of thousands of others over the past twenty years

Yesterday is a memory and tomorrow is a dream. Today is the day to make your mark – to make a difference.

Denis E. Waitley - American motivational speaker, writer and consultant 

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.

Gregg Krech - Executive Director of the ToDo Institute, a Naikan education and retreat center near Middlebury, Vermont

Open your eyes and see how many gifts there are to unwrap. Notice the presence of your presents. It’s not your life that is disappointing: it’s your mind.

Byron Katie - American speaker and author who teaches a method of self-inquiry known as "The Work of Byron Katie" or simply as "The Work

When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100 percent of the time.

Byron Katie - American speaker and author who teaches a method of self-inquiry known as "The Work of Byron Katie" or simply as "The Work

When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100 percent of the time.

Dale Carnegie - American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills

Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

Dale Carnegie - American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills

It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.

Dale Carnegie - American writer and lecturer, and the developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills

Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.

Elbert Hubbard - American writer, publisher, artist, and philosopher

Every man is a damn fool for at least five minutes every day; wisdom consists in not exceeding the limit.

Ryan Holiday - American marketer and author. He is the former director of marketing for American Apparel and a media columnist and editor-at-large for the New York Observer

Focus on the moment, not the monsters that may or may not be up ahead.

Russ Harris - Internationally acclaimed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and author of the best-selling ACT-based self-help book The Happiness

The more we try to avoid the basic reality that all human life involves pain, the more we are likely to struggle with that pain when it arises, thereby creating even more suffering.

Russ Harris - Internationally acclaimed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and author of the best-selling ACT-based self-help book The Happiness

The mind loves telling stories; in fact, it never stops.

Ralph Waldo Emerson - American essayist, lecturer, philosopher, abolitionist and poet who led the transcendentalist movement of the mid-19th century

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

Neil A. Fiore - Renowned psychologist, lecturer, trainer, and bestselling author

The fear of failure, the fear of being imperfect (perfectionism), and the fear of impossible expectations (being overwhelmed) that prevent us from acting on and attaining humanly possible goals and relationships.

Steve Chandler - Author of 30 books that have been translated into over 25 languages. His personal success coaching, public speaking and business consulting have been used by CEOs, top professionals, major universities, and over 30 Fortune 500 companies

I believe that half the unhappiness in life comes from people being afraid to go straight at things.

Steve Chandler - Author of 30 books that have been translated into over 25 languages. His personal success coaching, public speaking and business consulting have been used by CEOs, top professionals, major universities, and over 30 Fortune 500 companies

Worry is not true thought. Worry is a misuse of the imagination.

Jim Afremow - Sports psychology specialist and licensed professional counselor. He is the founder of Good to Gold Medal, PLLC, a leading sports psychology coaching and consulting practice located in Phoenix, Arizona

Excellence can be achieved only today—not yesterday or tomorrow, because they do not exist in the present moment. Today is the only day you have to flex your talents and maximize your enjoyment. Your challenge is to win in all aspects of life. To reach that goal, you need to set yourself up for success by winning one day at a time. Procrastination is no match for a champion.

Brendon Burchard - #1 New York Times best-selling author and "the world's leading high performance coach". His latest book, High Performance Habits, was a The Wall Street Journal best-seller and named by Amazon as one of its top three best business and leadership books of 2017

We must set intentions for who we are, for what roles we wish to serve, for how we’ll relate with the world. Without a vibrant awareness, we cannot connect with others or ourselves, nor can we meet the demands of the hour with grace. For this, we now declare: WE SHALL MEET LIFE WITH FULL PRESENCE AND POWER.

Donald Robertson - Cognitive-behavioural psychotherapist, writer, and trainer. He specializes in the treatment of anxiety and in the relationship between ancient philosophy and modern psychotherapy

Socrates used to say that death is like some prankster in a scary mask, dressed as a bogeyman to frighten small children. The wise man carefully removes the mask and, looking behind it, he finds nothing worth fearing.

Barbara Oakley - American professor of engineering at Oakland University and McMaster University whose online courses on learning are some of the most popular MOOC classes in the world. She is involved in multiple areas of research, ranging from STEM education, to learning practices

Procrastination expert Rita Emmett explains: “The dread of doing a task uses up more time and energy than doing the task itself."

Barbara Oakley - American professor of engineering at Oakland University and McMaster University whose online courses on learning are some of the most popular MOOC classes in the world. She is involved in multiple areas of research, ranging from STEM education, to learning practices

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

Lucius Annaeus Seneca - Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, dramatist, and in one work, satirist, from the post-Augustan age of Latin literature. Seneca was born in Cordoba in Hispania, and raised in Rome, where he was trained in rhetoric and philosophy

You act like mortals in all that you fear, and like immortals in all that you desire

Lucius Annaeus Seneca - Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman, dramatist, and in one work, satirist, from the post-Augustan age of Latin literature. Seneca was born in Cordoba in Hispania, and raised in Rome, where he was trained in rhetoric and philosophy

They lose the day in expectation of the night, and the night in fear of the dawn.

Thomas M. Sterner - Founder and CEO of the Practicing Mind Institute. As a successful entrepreneur, he is considered an expert in Present Moment Functioning

When, instead, your goal is to focus on the process and stay in the present, then there are no mistakes and no judging. You are just learning and doing. You are executing the activity, observing the outcome, and adjusting yourself and your practice energy to produce the desired result. There are no bad emotions, because you are not judging anything.

Thomas M. Sterner - Founder and CEO of the Practicing Mind Institute. As a successful entrepreneur, he is considered an expert in Present Moment Functioning

We think too many thoughts at once, most of them the same thoughts we had yesterday and the day before. We are impatient with life, and anxious.

Rory Vaden - One of the top 100 leadership speakers in the world according to Inc. Magazine. He is a Hall of Fame motivational speaker, New York Times bestselling author, and has a TEDx talk with millions of views. Rory is a recognized expert and speaker on business strategy and leadership

Action is the cure for fear.

Steven Pressfield - American author of historical fiction, non-fiction, and screenplays

Are you paralyzed with fear? That’s a good sign. Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember one rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.

Gary Keller - American entrepreneur and best-selling author. He is the founder of Keller Williams, which is the largest real estate company in the world by agent count, closed sales volume, and units sold

It is not that we have too little time to do all the things we need to do, it is that we feel the need to do too many things in the time we have.

Ryan Holiday - American author, public-relations strategist, bookstore owner and host of the podcast, The Daily Stoic. He is a former director of marketing for American Apparel

Remember that this moment is not your life, it’s just a moment in your life. Focus on what is in front of you, right now. Ignore what it “represents” or it “means” or “why it happened to you.

Brené Brown - American professor, lecturer, author, and podcast host

The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.

Gary Mack - Leading sports psychology consultant and counselor who has worked with athletes in the NBA, NFL, NHL, WNBA, and Major League Baseball

Under pressure people can perform fifteen percent better or fifteen percent worse.

Epictetus - Greek Stoic philosopher. He was born a slave at Hierapolis, Phrygia and lived in Rome until his banishment, when he went to Nicopolis in northwestern Greece for the rest of his life. His teachings were written down and published by his pupil Arrian in his Discourses and Enchiridion

Demand not that things happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do, and you will go on well.

Epictetus - Greek Stoic philosopher. He was born a slave at Hierapolis, Phrygia and lived in Rome until his banishment, when he went to Nicopolis in northwestern Greece for the rest of his life. His teachings were written down and published by his pupil Arrian in his Discourses and Enchiridion

Freedom is secured not by the fulfilling of men's desires, but by the removal of desire.

Pema Chödrön - American Tibetan Buddhist. She is an ordained nun, former acharya of Shambhala Buddhism and disciple of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche. Chödrön has written several dozen books and audiobooks, and is principal teacher at Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia

We are like children building a sand castle. We embellish it with beautiful shells, bits of driftwood, and pieces of colored glass. The castle is ours, off limits to others. We’re willing to attack if others threaten to hurt it. Yet despite all our attachment, we know that the tide will inevitably come in and sweep the sand castle away. The trick is to enjoy it fully but without clinging, and when the time comes, let it dissolve back into the sea.

Pema Chödrön - American Tibetan Buddhist. She is an ordained nun, former acharya of Shambhala Buddhism and disciple of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche. Chödrön has written several dozen books and audiobooks, and is principal teacher at Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia

We can spend our whole lives escaping from the monsters of our minds.

Pema Chödrön - American Tibetan Buddhist. She is an ordained nun, former acharya of Shambhala Buddhism and disciple of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche. Chödrön has written several dozen books and audiobooks, and is principal teacher at Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia

Hope and fear come from feeling that we lack something; they come from a sense of poverty. We can’t simply relax with ourselves. We hold on to hope, and hope robs us of the present moment. We feel that someone else knows what's going on, but that there's something missing in us, and therefore something is lacking in our world.

Mark Twain - American writer, humorist, entrepreneur, publisher, and lecturer. He was lauded as the "greatest humorist the United States has produced," and William Faulkner called him "the father of American literature"

Courage is not absence of fear; it is control of fear, mastery of fear.

Dr. Michael Lardon - One of the premier mental performance coaches in the world, with clients in more than a dozen professional and Olympic sports

Fear is the natural enemy of the great competitor.

Steven Kotler - American author, journalist, and entrepreneur. His articles have appeared in over 70 publications, including The New York Times Magazine, LA Times, Wired, Time magazine, GQ, Discover, Popular Science, Outside, Men’s Journal, Details and National Geographic Adventure

When risk is a challenge, fear becomes a compass—literally pointing people in the direction they need to go next.

Thich Nhat Hanh - Vietnamese Thiền Buddhist monk, peace activist, and founder of the Plum Village Tradition, historically recognized as the main inspiration for engaged Buddhism

When feeling lonely or anxious, most of us have the habit of looking for distractions, which often leads to some form of unwholesome consumption -- whether eating a snack in the absence of hunger, mindlessly surfing the Internet, going on a drive, or reading. Conscious breathing is a good way to nourish body and mind with mindfulness.

Thich Nhat Hanh - Vietnamese Thiền Buddhist monk, peace activist, and founder of the Plum Village Tradition, historically recognized as the main inspiration for engaged Buddhism

All the wonders of life are already here. They’re calling you. If you can listen to them, you will be able to stop running. What you need, what we all need, is silence. Stop the noise in your mind in order for the wondrous sounds of life to be heard. Then you can begin to live your life authentically and deeply.

Thich Nhat Hanh - Vietnamese Thiền Buddhist monk, peace activist, and founder of the Plum Village Tradition, historically recognized as the main inspiration for engaged Buddhism

While walking, for example, if we are talking or thinking at the same time, we get caught up in the conversation or thoughts we’re having and get lost in the past or the future, our worries or our projects. People can easily spend their entire lives doing just that. What a tragic waste! Let us instead really live these moments that are given to us. In order to be able to live our life, we have to stop that radio inside, turn off our internal discourse. How can we enjoy our steps if our attention is given over to all that mental chatter? It’s important to become aware of what we feel, not just what we think. When we touch the ground with our foot, we should be able to feel our foot making contact with the ground. When we do this, we can feel a lot of joy in just being able to walk. When we walk, we can invest all our body and mind into our steps and be fully concentrated in each precious moment of life.
In focusing on that contact with the earth, we stop being dragged around by our thoughts and begin to experience our body and our environment in a wholly different way. Our body is a wonder! Its functioning is the result of millions of processes. We can fully appreciate this only if we stop our constant thinking and have enough mindfulness and concentration to be in touch with the wonders of our body, the Earth, and the sky.

Daniel J. Siegel - Clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and executive director of the Mindsight Institute

Our state of mind can turn even neutral comments into fighting words, distorting what we hear to fit what we fear.

Barry Michels - Psychotherapist, he has a BA from Harvard, a law degree from University of California, Berkeley and an MSW from the University of Southern California

We'd like to imagine we can make evil disappear in one, decisive victory. But evil won't cooperate, it reappears endlessly. You attain Goodness by transforming it every time it returns. That's what Goodness is: the ceaseless commitment to transform evil.

Barry Michels - Psychotherapist, he has a BA from Harvard, a law degree from University of California, Berkeley and an MSW from the University of Southern California

The future may bring you darkness, but it can't take away your ability to create light.

Georges St-Pierre - Canadian former professional mixed martial artist and actor. He is widely regarded as one of the greatest fighters in mixed martial arts history 

The thing I had to learn, and I keep learning this lesson in my life every day, is how to take fear’s power and use it to become better. 

Eknath Easwaran - Indian-born spiritual teacher, author and translator and interpreter of Indian religious texts such as the Bhagavad Gita and the Upanishads

A mind that is racing over worries about the future or recycling resentments from the past is ill equipped to handle the challenges of the moment. By slowing down, we can train the mind to focus completely in the present. Then we will find that we can function well whatever the difficulties. That is what it means to be stress-proof: not avoiding stress but being at our best under pressure, calm, cool, and creative in the midst of the storm.

Eknath Easwaran - Indian-born spiritual teacher, author and translator and interpreter of Indian religious texts such as the Bhagavad Gita and the Upanishads

All negative thoughts – anger, fear, passion, compulsive craving -- tend to be fast. If we could see the mind when it is caught in such thoughts, we would really see it racing. But positive thoughts like love, patience, tenderness, compassion, and understanding are slow - not turbulent, rushing brooks of thinking, so to speak but broad rivers that are calm, clear, and deep.

Jiddu Krishnamurti - Philosopher, speaker and writer. In his early life, he was groomed to be the new World Teacher, but later rejected this mantle and withdrew from the Theosophy organization behind it

Most of us, as we grow older, become frightened; we are afraid of living, afraid of losing a job, afraid of tradition, afraid of what the neighbours, or what the wife or husband would say, afraid of death. Most of us have fear in one form or another; and where there is fear there is no intelligence.

Wallace D. Wattles - American New Thought writer. He remains personally somewhat obscure, but his writing has been widely quoted and remains in print in the New Thought and self-help movements

You can never become a great man or woman until you have overcome anxiety, worry, and fear. It is impossible for an anxious person, a worried one, or a fearful one to perceive truth; all things are distorted and thrown out of their proper relations by such mental states, and those who are in them cannot read the thoughts of God.

Malcolm Gladwell - English-born Canadian journalist, author, and public speaker. He has been a staff writer for The New Yorker since 1996

You can’t concentrate on doing anything if you are thinking, “What’s gonna happen if it doesn’t go right?

Malcolm Gladwell - English-born Canadian journalist, author, and public speaker. He has been a staff writer for The New Yorker since 1996

We are all of us not merely liable to fear, we are also prone to be afraid of being afraid, and the conquering of fear produces exhilaration.…The contrast between the previous apprehension and the present relief and feeling of security promotes a self-confidence that is the very father and mother of courage.

William H. McRaven - Retired United States Navy four-star admiral who served as the ninth commander of the United States Special Operations Command from August 8, 2011 to August 28, 2014

Those who live in fear of failure, or hardship, or embarrassment will never achieve their potential.

Gay Hendricks - Psychologist, writer, and teacher in the field of personal growth, relationships, and body intelligence

This won’t last forever, but it’s wonderful while it’s happening.

Gay Hendricks - Psychologist, writer, and teacher in the field of personal growth, relationships, and body intelligence

A close relationship is a powerful light force, and like any strong light it casts a large shadow. When you stand in the light of a close relationship, you must learn to deal with the shadow.