Test: the “Tic tac toe” game of life
A champion needs a motivation above and beyond winning.
Winning is an inside job.
It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.
I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.
The best way to get past any barrier is to come at it from a different direction, which is one reason it is useful to work with a teacher or coach.
Then I learned about something called action. I learned I can solve all this worry and decision-making anxiety by taking action. By admiring action. By having action plans, by asking, whenever stuck, WHAT’S MY NEXT ACTION? And then, doing that action NOW. Action. Movement. Decisive energy. Solves most everything!
Take that decisive action enough times and your fear won't exist any more.
Always do what you are afraid to do. Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.
Do it badly; do it slowly; do it fearfully; do it any way you have to, but do it.
Every great leader must face his or her demons in order to overcome them. I’ve always known this, but I wasn’t aware of any immediate problems. But these days the demons are more insidious; they’re the everyday annoyances, the little things that suck away our potential to do big things.
Don't go through life, grow through life.
The choice is not working or not working, but which type of work; even feeling guilty because of procrastinating takes some effort. When you commit to a goal, you're committing to a form of work that brings ongoing rewards. When you procrastinate, you're choosing a self-punishing form of work.
TEN RULES FOR WINNING THE GAME OF CONFIDENCE
1. The actions of confidence come first; the feelings of confidence come later.
2. Genuine confidence is not the absence of fear; it is a transformed relationship with fear.
3. Negative thoughts are normal. Don’t fight them; defuse them.
4. Self-acceptance trumps self-esteem.
5. True success is living by your values.
6. Hold your values lightly, but pursue them vigorously.
7. Don’t obsess about the outcome; get passionate about the process.
8. Don’t fight your fear: allow it, befriend it, and channel it.
9. Failure hurts—but if we’re willing to learn, it’s a wonderful teacher.
10. The key to peak performance is total engagement in the task.
A = Accept your thoughts and feelings and be present.
C = Connect with your values.
T = Take effective action.
Indecision leads to inaction, which leads to low energy, depression, despair.
The best players in any high-stakes field - business, entertainment, law, surgery, as well as sport - recognize that pressure occurs at the moments when meaningful accomplishment is possible. In fact, that is the reason why performers perform: for the opportunity to tackle challenges head on, to do something significant, to demonstrate what their hard work and talent can produce.
The act of taking the first step is what separates the winners from the losers.
Don’t be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.
I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.
Some people spend their entire lives waiting for the time to be right to make an improvement.
Whenever you see a successful business, someone once made a courageous decision.
My dreams are worthless, my plans are dust, my goals are impossible. All are of no value unless they are followed by action.
Your life becomes the thing you have decided it shall be.
Studies consistently show that when we look back on our lives the most common regrets are not the risks we took, but the ones we didn’t. Of the many regrets people describe, regrets of inaction outnumber those of action by nearly two to one. Some of the most common include not pursuing more education, not being more assertive, and failing to seize the moment. When people reflect later in life, it is the things they did not do that generate the greatest despair.
The Key to Success is Action
Intellectual growth results not from the accumulation of tidbits of information, but from considering and integrating it.
People love to say that knowledge is power. But the truth is that knowledge is only potential power.
A decision is only as strong as the belief standing behind it.
What stress really does, though, is deplete willpower, which diminishes your ability to control those emotions.
Part of working well in any group is the ability to have hard conversations.
Everything begins with an idea.
Do you choose to choose and actively create the kind of life that you want for yourself?
Since flow is a fluid action state, making better decisions isn’t enough: we also have to act on those decisions. The problem is fear, which stands between us and all actions. Yet our fears are grounded in self, time, and space. With our sense of self out of the way we are liberated from doubt and insecurity. With time gone, there is no yesterday to regret or tomorrow to worry about. And when our sense of space disappears, so do physical consequences. But when all three vanish at once, something far more incredible occurs: our fear of death—that most fundamental of all fears—can no longer exist. Simply put: if you’re infinite and atemporal, you cannot die.
It’s your actions, more than your thoughts, that dictates who wins.
When asked about what they regret most in the last six months, people tend to identify actions that didn’t meet expectations. But when asked about what they regret most when they look back on their lives as a whole, people tend to identify failures to act.
By thought, the thing you want is brought to you. By action, you receive it
Whatever we choose to imagine can be as private as we want it to be. Nobody knows what you're thinking or feeling unless you share it.
Never take the position that things just happen to you; rather, they happen because of something you did or did not do.
It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires a great deal of strength to decide what to do.
I don't have to have faith, I have experience.
For the things we have to learn before we can do them, we learn by doing them.
The way to activate the seeds of your creation is by making choices about the results you want to create. When you make a choice, you activate vast human energies and resources, which otherwise go untapped.
The best way to experience the power of fundamental choices is to make them.